It’s easy to feel mentally balanced when things are going well, but it’s often difficult to maintain or regain that equilibrium in the face of conflict. I think its fair to say we will face many challenges along life's journey and bouncing back from issues, both minor and major, is a crucial skill to master. If you lose your composure every time something goes wrong, you’ll only hinder your progress and potential.
So what kinds of approaches work when you’re trying to regain your balance?
1. Reset Your Brain With a Quick ‘Win’ I think in a situation where you’re dealing with any sort of loss, it is very important to reset. Do something you love doing for leisure. Go out with friends or play a game or do something that you’re good at it or enjoy. Winning at something will help you feel better. This will keep your brain from being overworked and help you blow off some steam before working again. You’ll deal with the problems a lot better.
2. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation
The beauty of practicing mindfulness and meditation is that it can be done at any time and almost anywhere. The benefits can be wide-ranging and help to enhance listening skills, quiet anxieties and promote positive emotions. When things go wrong ,meditation and mindfulness can help us see clearly and respond in a way that maintains a mental equilibrium.
3. Look Toward Your End Goal Stay focused on your end goal. This is how you can really bounce back when you lose control and equilibrium or get distracted. The process is never made to be easy. Don’t just be motivated by the end goal, but stay passionate about the process, so that you’ll love the journey and stay on track. 4. Allow Yourself to Feel Sad That liminal space between how you want things to turn out and the way they actually turn out can be painful, but it shouldn’t be ignored. Allow yourself time to connect with your sadness in a compassionate way and realise it is just a step in a larger process of learning. Acknowledging and even writing your feelings down allows you to dust yourself off, get back up and to go get your dreams.
5. Talk to a Trusted Mentor
It can be very challenging to make clear decisions when under extreme pressure or when facing significant loss. Open up and share your frustrations with a trusted mentor who has relevant experience handling similar issues. Use the time to evaluate your circumstances. You may need to change course, take a step back or wait it out patiently, any of which can be hard to do without proper insight.
6. Step Away & Reset
Stepping back from a hectic situation is often one of the best ways to overcome it. While this situation will vary at times, depending on what is going on, it’s often best to not react right away and without time to reflect on what’s going on. For simple matters, this can mean just stepping away and going outside; for other bigger events, it might require some time off to reset.
7. Take Problems on, One Step at a Time
When things go wrong, we tend to want to tackle everything at once. If you’re in a situation with many minor problems, work on solving those issues one by one, in order of urgency. If you’re facing one major issue, try to sort out the cause of the issue and tackle the smaller root causes of the major problem.
8. Sleep on It
During times of high stress, often we tend to make hasty decisions that end up making the situation even worse, stressing ourselves out even further. So, when things go wrong, before making a decision, sleep on it. Getting a good night’s sleep will help you be able to look at the situation more clearly and allow you to tackle it head on with a sound mind.
9. Get Outside and Take a Walk
Studies have shown that get outside and spending time in nature may be able to increase your resilience to stress. So, when things aren’t going well, I like to get outside and go for a walk. It’s calming and helps you come back to a stressful situation feeling more refreshed.
10. Focus on the Solution, Not the Cause
When something goes wrong, it is easy to start looking for the reason why it happened — and that’s exactly what can stress you out and makes things even worse than they really are. Draw on people and their advice and expertise, ask for opinions but if they do not help solve your solution look to brake everything down by putting pen to paper.